I enjoy cooking delicious meals, but I have no problem serving macaroni and cheese out of a box. Being a gourmet cook is something I aspire to, but it’s not my #1. Tom always says, “You get your #1.” There is always that Most Important Thing that surpasses everything else. Sometimes we kid ourselves about what it is. Sometimes we know exactly what it is. Sometimes we live with a lot of guilt and shame because we think it’s supposed to be something that, in truth, it just isn’

People judge. It’s what we do. We stand and look at a clothes rack choosing between two shirts. Which one is the right color? The right price? The right size? Judgment. The trouble is when we give and receive judgment to and from human beings. And not just any judgment. The kind of judgment that says, she uses that brand of diapers? She lets her kids eat those kinds of snacks? She uses that homeschool curriculum? These kinds of judgments are method judgments. They’ve nothing