I enjoy cooking delicious meals, but I have no problem serving macaroni and cheese out of a box. Being a gourmet cook is something I aspire to, but it’s not my #1. Tom always says, “You get your #1.” There is always that Most Important Thing that surpasses everything else. Sometimes we kid ourselves about what it is. Sometimes we know exactly what it is. Sometimes we live with a lot of guilt and shame because we think it’s supposed to be something that, in truth, it just isn’